#1. Being Who You AreYou might have been told this a million times, but there is still a large number out there who spend their whole lives being something that they’re not, for someone who doesn’t even care. I read this quote a couple of days back and found that it makes complete sense. “You will always be too much of something for someone: too big, too loud, too soft, too edgy. If you round out your edges, you lose your edge. Apologize for mistakes. Apologize for unintentionally hurting someone- profusely. But don’t apologize for being who you are.”
#2. Something You’ve Not DonePeople often tend to advocate apologizing in face of a conflict in order to salvage a relation and the masses tend to subscribe to the thought. And I’m not saying that it is wrong (but I’m not saying it is right, either). My beliefs don’t go along the same road. I feel that you shouldn’t apologize to someone for something that IS NOT your mistake, especially if a third party is at fault. This is very important in treasuring your relations with others.
#3. Being EmotionalThe majority of the people tend to equate emotions to weakness. And they tend to be embarrassed about that singular decision that they took under the bout of emotions. I know a lot of people who keep apologizing for that one time when they cried if front of everyone. But, in contrast, emotions are what make us the strongest.
While it is extremely important to learn what you should and shouldn’t apologize for, know that you won’t always receive the apology you deserve. So, as Robert Brault says, “Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology that you never got.”
Written by Aneri Doshi
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