It is okay to cry and to break down. But what is more important is that you if you want to let your guard down, if you want to completely reveal your vulnerable self, you do it in front of people who are concerned about you and wouldn’t want to pour cold water on you when you’re in the midst of a storm. In fact, I personally feel that tears never make you strong. If your cheeks are damp, it just means that you have the strength to let go of the pent up emotions and frustrations.
And though you might not be able to believe it right now, fewer people were concerned about the smeared eyeliner than you thought, and more people were concerned about the grief that you tried to hide than you thought.
It’s okay to have days when your nail paint doesn’t match your dress, your dress has a country-full of wrinkles, your eyes are red with grief that your heart can handle and your shaky legs won’t let you wear heels. And what’s more, most people won’t judge you.
As the saying goes, “The most beautiful smile is the one that struggles through tears” a smile on your lips while your eyes are brimming with tears is the most wonderful, because it means that you’re making an effort. You’re fighting to hold that dam in place when you could have given in, to that cliché female crying phenomenon and shed a few tears. But the fact that you’re still trying to look at the rays when the stormy clouds envelop you, means that you have admirable strength.
And nothing is as awe-inspiring as a person who is confident enough to accept their flaws and reveal them in front of the world. People might judge you, loathe you, laugh at you, but they will eventually accept you for who you are. Plus, in the process, they will get awed by the fact that you had the guts to show your vulnerable side to the world.
While humans are social beings and accordingly you need to live withing the boundaries of the society, sometimes it is necessary to step beyond those lines in order to discover, accept and respect your true self. So, it’s okay to doing what you want, even if the society frowns upon you, as long as you don’t hurt anyone.
Written by Aneri Doshi
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